School problems

I've had nothing but problems with Issy's school I'd love to swap schools but I really don't want to take her away from her friends and my reasons aren't good enough for a new school to accept her into theirs :( here's a few of the problems I've had so far

1- She went a whole term without a P.E kit because I wasn't aware she didn't have one on her peg until I came across her plimsolls at the bottom of the shoe bag in the living room, when I asked if she had one they found just her P.E bag on her beg and brought me someone else's shorts asking if they were hers (which was what threw me as her P.E bag wasn't at home I assumed she had one) I'd have thought they would have put a note in her diary to let me know she needed one?

2- She went almost a week without a reading book or words after sending her one back in, I asked her teacher why and she said her book hadn't been returned again a note in her diary wouldn't have gone a miss (me and Issy are both 1OO% sure it went in) Issy explained she had put it in her box they said she hadn't, I said I couldn't find it at home they told Issy to look hard and in her room I then said she isn't allowed them in her room, she only has them on the sofa then back into her book bag they again proceeded to tell Issy to look for it as if I was lying :/ I was then fined for a book I saw a little boy get 2 versions out of his book bag along with the actual book he was meant to be reading, explained it all to then be told it was a different book so in I went and showed them the fine I received to be told 'oh they will be the same price so just pop back to the office and pay it' until this was done Issy didn't receive a new book or words to learn! I still haven't come across this missing book I'm meant to have at my house.

3- Issy had to be re-tested on her spelling test around 5 times and it wasn't until I went in and mentioned she was doing them fine with me and was upset because they didn't sound it out with her which I understand they have a group to do them with but it took me going in for them to put her down a group because she was clearly struggling with the words they were giving her, She gets her B's and D's round the wrong way they corrected it on one and not the other marking her wrong the word being DAD and she knows how to spell that she writes it every time she gets a piece of paper but surely you can't correct one and not the other?

4- Following the spelling one she hadn't done so well with they put a :| face in her book because she didn't get many right, now that was upsetting for me to see let alone a 5 year old, I spoke to my friend who is a teacher and she said they aren't allowed to do that they are only allowed to put encouraging words/next steps.

5- Issy has started showing alot of signs of how I was when I had my eating disorder when I was younger, she was on school dinners until she didn't want to go to school one day I sat down with her and asked why and it was because she didn't like the dinners so of course I put her back on packed lunches, the reason she doesn't like dinners anymore is because the teachers pressure her to eat more and she started putting her dinner in the bin which she was caught and told off for, I know she shouldn't waste food but isn't that where it was going to go anyway? and I understand they are meant to be making sure they eat their dinner but Issy gets clearly distressed about being pressured to eat her dinner and I think telling her off was abit much so much so that she didn't want to go to school and any mention of school dinners she gets upset :( I've spoken to one of her teachers about my concerns with the signs she's showing and she's been okay the head teacher sits with her on occasions and she seems to be happy with her lunch being packed by me :)

So that's to name a few things I'm not happy about am I wrong for being just a little bit angry? am I just being an overprotective mum? Is a note in her diary to much to ask?